LURES OF SEX
In the #SENSEofSEX, the space between our legs has always held compelling attraction for the human, right from cognitive infancy. Though often accidentally, he initially stumbled onto the thrilling pleasure that comes from stroking the space. With time he takes regular excursion to the space, to relish the soothing ripples of emotions that is precipitated.
As the human grows older, coitus becomes more perceptible, and alluring. He begins to respond to peculiar erotic gestures from mostly, members of the opposite sex. The woman specifically, receives more of this attention from men, than the other way round. Gifts of money and material presents are showered upon her in the name of courting. As she matures unto puberty, the gifts increase in quality and quantity.
The nickel in no time, drops. Depending on the extent of submission she grants the male suitor, a touch or hug would elicit nominal present. But if she goes out on romance trip with him, an appreciable increase in sundry gifts would be received. In addition she is inundated with pledges of unmitigated affection for her alone. And if she at the end of the day, consummates the romance outing with coitus, the different kinds of gifts sent her way would definitely be mind-boggling, from her personal perspective.
Continued association of sexual favours with material benefits mostly for the woman, in money, gifts and acts of kindness, did eventually create the culture of prostitution and pornography. The woman in commercial sex, no longer needs to feel affection for the potential partner. All that is required is appreciable sum of money, paid in advance, preferably. The human instinct for maximization of profit overcomes the young woman. Immediately she discovers the extra gain in cultivating, from several to countless number of "lovers".
But sex is not an ordinary human activity. Its influence pervades virtually every aspect of the human life, with profound implication upon his spirituality. Appreciation of humans, one of another, is traditionally expressed by peculiar gestures. In contact greeting, there is the handshake. This perhaps, would be the initial portrayal of friendliness and hospitality. Beyond that comes the hug. Coming together and pressing together against one another, is warmth and familiarity commonly practised globally. Then when the emotions boil up and flow over, kissing would be involved, with lips locked together in the beginning of erotic excitement. And in the fullness of sexual passion, the humans would strip and go into each other. SEX THEREFORE, BECOMES THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF DEEPLY FELT WARMTH AND AFFECTION, ONE FOR THE OTHER!
Love expressed in sex is characterized by profound caring. Sustained long enough, it leads to staying together, and often, living together in marriage. The beauty of the nuptial home lies in its being the principle unit of the human society. For all members of the family in marriage, the home is a concise replica of the larger world. It has the various facilities for security, resolution of disputes, recreation, enlightenment, and communion with God. Above everything else, the home is the environment of apprenticeship for the human, where he would be groomed to perform as a fully fledged human adult, contributing towards the continuation of the human culture and civilization.
In commercialization of sex therefore, the divine emotion of love is sacrificed. The requisite time period for getting together and familiar with a partner, is as brief as the speed by which payment is made. Accordingly, there is a race for increase in the number of partners in a given day towards the maximization of profit. When this situation is established, the commercial worker stumbles onto an awfully, terrifying environment froth with unimaginable venereal diseases, treachery, violence, drug abuse, alcoholism, and personal defamation.
Most of the time though, there would be immense wealth, but because of the inevitable health challenges, life of the commercial sex worker ends early and in grave misery. Furthermore, because the space between our legs are terribly delicate, the tear and wear of ceaseless assault in commercial sex services, the integrity of the organs are irreversibly damaged. For the woman, elasticity of the vagina as well as its sensitivity would be gone. The breasts would sag and lose firmness. And for the man, it will take longer time for him to achieve erection, if at all he does. In extreme cases, ejaculation would be impossible.
To the persistent anguish of the conscious community, countless adverse effects of commercialization of sex cannot be successfully, confined to the PORNOGRAPHIC ENVIRONMENT alone. This is as a result of the fluid boundaries that mark the various human communities, when intellectual evolution is the strict delineating factor. And because they do not wear their peculiar life style on their face, commercial sex workers are at most, indistinguishable from everybody else. The large fortune they have to play with, assures them glamorous and highly attractive appearance. Accordingly, they would easily interact with and corrupt the lot of the decent society. Added to this, most decent people do not fully appreciate the immense health hazard implication of consorting with and participating in commercial sex activities.
Before the advent of print and electronic dissemination of video and photo images, there were for paying audience, live coital performances in peculiar places, around the world. This was pornography, and similar practice is still available to this day. Though its existence was subdued over time, with the advancement in technology, pornography has blossomed, pervading all aspects of the mass communication system. The internet, satellite television, digital video devices, news magazines and newspapers, world over, are inundated with all manners of sexual display.
From the normal and decent, to the shocking and brutally depraved, practitioners come from all races. The pathetically young and the regrettably advanced in age, compete in the mad race to surpass one another in the acquisition of material lucre, through the violation of the precious space between our legs.
When confronted, the pornographic and prostitution practitioners always put up not so convincing defence. They would insist that their incredible popularity globally, is ample justification for their prayers for legalization. Also that unbelievable fortune is spent annually worldwide, to acquire and sustain pornographic services. When that fails to give them legitimacy, they would belabour the case of self-responsibility for their actions. After all they would maintain, the bodies involved are theirs, and they are not complaining, in addition, they were created that way, it is God's desire. As their final resort, they would point out the various personal services like hair dressing, massage, pedicure and manicure, and food, including countless other human oriented services, that are commercialized universally. Then ceaselessly, they wonder why sex should not likewise, be commercialized. Besides, to them, prostitution came into existence from the very beginning of HUMAN SOCIETY!
Relief given by prostitutes and pornography is painfully short and temporary. And in no time evaporates before the brutal reality of potential contracting of venereal disease, coupled with certain defamation of character. It would be better to have recourse to masturbation, while awaiting the return of one's partner, even if it is acquisition of a new or replacement lover. Besides sex as presented in pornography is without the appreciable features of coital realities known to humans. Absent conspicuously are the hesitant stuttering and rejections of newly met lovers. Missing also is the fairly prolonged foreplay, with coitus proper following in a tightly woven embrace. This implies that the missionary mode is most popular. If there are other positions in the natural coital experience, close contact with other parts of the bodies normally occurs. But the pornographic video lays most emphasis on the camera view. Displaying only the erotic activities around the genitals.
Playing the devil's advocate as it were, dim in common reality it maybe, there perhaps are certain irrefutable needs, prostitution and pornography are satisfying in the general human society. This stems from the fact that as the human grows, the urge to assuage the hot stirring in the space between his legs begins to mount. In a lot of people, masturbation, to a large extent subdues the heat. But for countless others, there must be a partner in coitus. Many get into early sexual relationship, while others rush into marriage, all in the bid to freely and in an early age, assuage the coital stirring.
The very fact of complex and unsettling circumstances in arranging and achieving a sexual relationship, much more so marriage, discourages many from society's accepted mode of decent sexual relationship. For a man or woman to get a steady sexual partner in a decent man or woman, for instance, pressure would mount on his or her self discipline. This is with regards to keeping to her or his partner's loins and no other's. He or she has to contend with the fickle aspect of the woman's or man's emotional nature, made worse by ceaseless exhibition of jealousy. In addition, the most burden of financially maintaining the relationship falls, a lot of times on the man, who mostly, struggles to shake off a bit onto the woman, creating a fight in the process. Not left our is the certain fear of pregnancy and harrowing harassment that go with having and bringing up children.
And human life being what it is, an adult would not always be in cordial enough frame of mind to get together, as often as would bring coital tranquillity in the space between our legs. Perhaps it is just that the other partner has moved some distance out of site, and would be away for some time. It may even be that one is yet to find a willing and decent partner. Quite unfortunately though, there are people who cannot resist the thought of wandering what it would feel like in coital embrace with an attractive stranger, though they are already in a relationship or even married, and bluntly refuse to leave it on thoughts and wishes alone.
Whatever be the case, on a regular basis, humans are faced with mounting pressure to assuage the hot, coital stirring between our legs, without the above mentioned complexities in regular sexual relationship. And this in addition to keeping present marriage or plain sexual affair, he or she is already in. It is at this point that the heart strays towards the brothel and the sex worker. The entire ritual of proposition and commencement of coitus may, as often as is the case, be as long as it takes for the payment to be made by the customer to the prostitute. Besides the point, is the incontrovertible probability that the sex worker may be bonded, that is enslaved by her pimp administrators. Therefore she is mostly, working against her better judgement and conscience. Equally to the avail is pornographic materials in settling coital urges, when a willing partner is unavailable. May it not be forgotten that prostitution and pornography quite frequently, present to scientific researchers, perfect materials for in-depth study of human sexuality.
BUT MOST UNFORTUNATELY, WHEN EVERY OPTION FAILS AND THE SEX WORKER, BY VIRTUE OF COST IN MONEY AND DEFAMATION IS OFF LIMITS, RAPE BECOMES A REGRETTABLE OPTION! YOUNG AND OLD, WOMEN AND MORE OFTEN NOW MEN, ARE STALKED AND SEXUALLY ASSAULTED. ALSO KIDNAPPINGS SOLELY FOR SEX HAS INTENSIFIED. IT IS THEREFORE REASONABLE TO VIEW PROSTITUTION AND PORNOGRAPHY SERVICE PROVIDERS WITH MIXED FEELINGS. IF BRUTALLY FORCED UNDERGROUND, GOVERNMENT SANITATION AGENCIES WOULD NOT REACH THEM. SEEING NOW THAT THEIR SERVICES ARE SADLY INDISPENSABLE, THEY WOULD BE DEADLIER THAN EVER, AND WORSE, PORTEND A RUINOUS RISK TO THE VITAL STRUCTURE OF HUMAN CIVILIZATION! THEREFORE, LET SEX EDUCATION BE GRAPHIC, AND ITS ILLUSTRATIONS POINTEDLY SO, THAT THE GRAVITY OF THE SITUATION BE VIVIDLY IMPRESSED UPON THE YOUNG AND OLD ALIKE TOWARDS THE SANITATION OF THE DIVINE SPACE BETWEEN OUR LEGS, IN #SENSEofSEX!
Commercial sex has been with humans since recorded history. It is now, much regrettably, so enshrined in the cultural fabrics of every community, that it appears indispensable. Compulsion to pornography specifically, is founded upon human's native desire to watch others perform in drama, acts which he himself, indulges in. Thus it would appear improbable that prostitution and pornography could ever be stopped.
Be the above as it may, considerable management of the business of commercialized sex could, very well be achieved. When this is done well enough, the clinically unhealthy life patterns of the commercial sex worker, would be prevented from derailing the vital motions of the conscious community. To start with, all adverts, sponsorships, media events by, involving or depicting prostitutes and pornographic performers must universally, be banned.
Furthermore, when eventually, a pornographic video or print material is created, as it is bound to be, there must be a rigid set of rules that must be strictly enforced. Every country must abide by these rules. First, age limit of performers being 18 years, must not be negotiated. All unhealthy aspects of porn activities must be banned. This sanitization will include pulling the penis from the anus or vagina, and straight away inserting it into the mouth. Urinating or defecating on the partner or partners. Also to be ruled out would, be viciousness of all kinds, including brutality akin to rape. In addition, to address unprotected sex, condom must be used at all times.
But most importantly, pornographic materials are all acted out, and everyone in it is performing to a script created in fiction. Therefore it comes as no surprise that greater percentage of the features are without similarity to the natural reality known commonly. For the ordinary law abiding person to try out the various acts in a pornographic material, is clearly suicidal. For example, no one gets pregnant in the shows. Nobody contracts venereal diseases of any kind. Equally of note is the fact that there is no rejection. Whenever a woman is touched, she quickly undresses and coitus begins.
Still working at drastically stemming the flow of traffic into the pathetic universe of aberrant sexuality, let it be pointed out that even for the straight laced but vibrantly sexual woman, no man or for that matter woman, could make certain claim to safety. When in sexual contact therefore, he or she may be lapping up body fluid and excretions left on and in the woman by customers (lovers) before him or her. But this is more so, and brutally disturbing, when the woman is a certified sex worker! One may be tempted to dismiss as suicidal anybody who in spite of all we know, continues to patronize the sex worker. But we must quickly realize that in so doing, we open ourselves to corruption by these persons. Because they do not wear horns, they could easily get into the decent society and wreak incalculable damage on the totality of communal culture.
THEREFORE, EVERY FRAME OF A PORNOGRAPHIC PICTURE, VIDEO OR PRINT, MUST BEAR AN ALERT MESSAGE "ALL ASPECTS OF THIS PICTURE WAS ACTED NOT REAL. TRYING IT OUT CONSTITUTES POTENTIAL DANGER TO YOU!"
CONFRONTED BY THE HAVOC WREAKED ON THE VITAL SPACE BETWEEN OUR LEGS, I COULD NOT HELP ADVANCING A PERSONAL EFFORT TOWARDS RECTIFYING THE SITUATION AND CREATING PEACE WITHIN THAT SPACE BETWEEN OUR LEGS, IN A #SENSEofSEX!
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